A short story about “and then I realized”

Quote about holding onto pain
From a social media update but i can’t recall where. This short story, below, has been a huge growth experience.


A short story about “and then I realized”

The people i want to talk to the most almost always get a call, text, or email from me first.

The people i want to talk to the most rarely (almost never) initiate a call, text, or email.

And then i realized this (a long time ago, actually).

But for some unknown reason that i still can’t explain to this day, i felt a nagging guilt about how to remedy this.

Mostly, i felt like it was my place to always be the initiator.

i didn’t like it, and i still don’t.

And then i realized there was never any written or even weirdly implied expectation for me to always go first.

Over the years (decades) i suggested to some of my family and friends that we could set up some sort of schedule to call.

But many of my family and friends never liked that idea for whatever reasons and no process was ever tried.

And by the way, trying something new is only a starting point. A point from which things can be tweaked with input from those involved. Each Family member and Friend may like something a little different.

i’m used to scheduling things because i worked in a career that required me to be organized and to plan ahead in order to get the things done that were the most important.

And then i realized i have a choice that i have never done before.  What would happen if i stop calling, texting, and emailing?

And then i realized, i don’t need to feel guilty anymore.

And then i also realized, everyone is OK with this, and i was just making it a bigger deal than it really was/is.

Now I feel free.

And then i realized, i like this feeling of freedom.

If the phone doesn’t ring, it’s me.

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If only we had spent more time at the office

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(photo: Labor Day weekend 2014 at Gibmore, which isn’t far from Biltmore)

A mini epiphany is good for the soul. Had one yesterday. Epiphanies don’t come around much anymore, do they?

As toddlers, they happened almost daily. Our learning curve was massive back in the day.

But now? Now if we’re lucky as middle age grown ups, our learning curve looks like a straight line with just a tiny curve. The way a wooden board might look when slightly warped. Difficult to see any curve, but you can if you look closer.

The mini epiphany?

To let go of something that doesn’t matter. And it happened rather quickly after all this time holding on.

While the thing does matter, it is no longer up to this now comforted soul to worry about.

Still hopeful for those teammates remaining. They deserve goodness.

But have let go of the altruistic notion that it was a purpose important enough to die for.

No one looks back and says, ‘Wish I had spent more time at the office’.

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Grieving The Loss of a Pet

Unconditional Love (Both Ways)
Unconditional Love (Both Ways)

By mid life, most of us (not all, but most) have had family pets and have had to deal with the loss of a beloved pet.

This can be gut wrenching, and deeply emotional.

Have you been there?

Sometimes we see it coming.  Sometimes it happens in an instant. Either way, it is never easy.

Finding a good way to express our grief at the loss of a beloved Family pet will bring us a mid life peace we so desperately need.

Click here, if you find yourself in need, to read a comforting article on this topic.

I just read it and fold greater peace.

This is exactly what me and my Family needs right now.

Yesterday, we laid Carter, our beloved Canine Son (yellow Lab of 11 years)), to rest.

Mid Life Updates

Rethink, Reprioritize, Recommit
Rethink, Reprioritize, Recommit

Happy Monday everyone.  Hope you had a great weekend. I actually worked Saturday at my “real job” – yes, I’m a career employee at a large company.

This whole five daily blogs thing is like a hobby, like growing a garden or something. And as any avid gardener will tell you, “It’s a labor of love.”

Quite literally, a labor of love – for a child.

Anyway, back to the updates:

1.  Erika Liodice’s Mid Life Celebration Guest Blogger post yesterday was a first here. Please check out her site, Beyond The Gray, if you want a midlife perspective from a not yet 30-year old.  Erika gave me “my first big break” as a Guest Blogger.

2.  The numbers thing the other day. (gulp) Well, that was sort of like a time capsule to look back on later.

3.  February is about Peace. Peace to me means –  tranquility, balance, solace, contentment, harmony, simplicity, acceptance.