Similar in a different sort of way

George Washington

Similar in a different sort of way, a thought from George Washington that is part of the hope at Mid Life Celebration. That you would come to trust this place for reassurance that the long way is the short cut:

“Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.” – George Washington

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A perfect example of being mindful in the moment

Same place, different time of day…

Artsian pools

A perfect example of being mindful in the moment. Last night two 11-year old boys in the pool kept badgering, “Come on, one more game”.

The Magic Kingdom fireworks had just finished, so it was past 10pm and well past “my bedtime”. And I was tired from a long day.

The midlife truth struck. There will come a day when I’ll long for this type of request.

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Note: Fireworks visible 365 days a year from house. Yes, got back in.

In the Boomer’s dream, he started drinking again

The Florida State tree in it’s summer bloom looks like the brain’s synapses… amazing how nature works, to reproduce, and to dream…

Florida State tree

Last night in a dream, a Boomer rationalized it was ok to drink under a special circumstance. So glad it was a dream and not reality. Midlife is this fork in the road:

  1. Celebrate an amazing right of passage
  2. Go into crisis mode and panic

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It goes without saying, by Guest blogger Lorie Sheffer

vulnerability
Vulnerability, trust, and non-verbal communication (photo: Lorie Sheffer)

When a cat lies in it’s back and exposes its soft underbelly that is a sign of trust. The cat is in a position of vulnerability by an attacker. In order for it to expose that part of itself it must feel totally safe and not threatened by its surroundings.

I recently read a study that concluded we humans are losing our ability to interpret social cues and body language. We are becoming increasingly distracted by technology, communicating via social media such as Twitter and Facebook. In doing so, we are literally rewiring our brains.

When my husband had a massive stroke in 1996, he was left with severe expressive and receptive aphasia. What that means is, he was unable to understand language or speak coherently. He lost his reading comprehension as well. During his recovery time, we had to rely on other means of communication. The same holds true to those who have small children, and sometimes it holds true if we have elderly parents. They are unable to effectively communicate verbally, so we need to be more in tune with those other signals.

Most of us can tell if someone has a strained look on their face that they’ve had a bad day. Raised shoulders mean they are carrying stress. A slumped, deflated posture can be a sign of defeat or fatigue. Fast speech or rapid hand movements signal excitement or unease.

How sad if, in our race to Tweet real-time or immediately race to post photos, we lose the subtle art of wordless conversation.