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Comfort will ruin you

Email is on the way out. Gambling that text lists replace email lists.

What makes us comfortable is ruining us as we speak.

What makes us uncomfortable is the only thing that allows us to grow.

Like onions, there are layers to the first two statements.

Most of us are creatures of comfort.

We strive to make our living conditions comfortable. Nothing wrong with indoor plumbing and air-conditioning.

But what about our habits?

Avoiding risk, setting a low bar for achievement, believing balance is a myth, waiting to be picked.

Comfort provides stability, predictability, and well, comfort.

And it ruins us. Stagnates us. Destroys our growth.

Growth only occurs with discomfort.

Read that again, growth only occurs when we are out of our comfort zone.

You are welcome.

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Letting go

Tony Cozza remodeling allows me (us) to trust someone to do things the way we would do them, or even better than we ever could. Evening shot of back porch paint prep.

Part of my next is letting go of all the things i currently do that someone else can do.

Hire someone for each task is an option.

Another option is to stop doing the task.

It’s a combination of both.

Preparing your family for your (permanent) absence is a gift. You are required to have an uncommon attitude about your paradigm shift.

Being prepared for death doesn’t need to be avoided.

Are you prepared for your death?

Do you know others who have their paperwork of life all set for when that day comes? And not only paperwork, but the emotional reassurance and closure that comes from leaving no doubt where your love stands.

It’s not like avoiding the preparation will delay death and extend your life. Or am i missing something?

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High performance mindset

Disney Keynote Speaker
This photo helps employees at every level remember why they exist.

High performance mindset.

The quickest way to get one is to put in the work.

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Approach and avoidance messages

Look for the chipped paint or look for the smiley face? Photo: Hotel parking garage next to Goucher College.

Read yesterday’s message in the next paragraph…

You will never reach your potential, and discover your purpose, by staying in your comfort zone.

Now, read today’s version, rewritten with an approach mindset rather than an avoidance mindset (above)…

You will always reach your potential, and discover your purpose, by getting out of your comfort zone.

Feel the difference?

In the last few weeks, it’s been nagging me that my traditional approach leads with avoidance. Casually, yet with decent intentionality, i’ve been playing around with moving to an approach mindset. My clock is ticking (so is everyone’s) and i’d like to transform in a way i never have.

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Approval addiction

discomfort
No one has to believe this. And some, it’s all they believe.

What do you think when you hear “approval addiction”?

Does it mean anything to you?

Should it?

Are you a victim of it?

Are you unknowingly fueling another person’s future addiction to approval?

It is not something anyone consciously decides to do.

Becoming aware of the phenomenon a decade ago at a Montessori school presentation, i set out to .parent .differently

Fast forward from 2009 to last night.

Texted a question to our son, “Do u have 1 min for a call”.

“Yeah”.

i felt compelled to tell him how proud i am of who he has become and where he is in life.

He rarely heard me say “how proud I am of you.”

There is a belief that constant approval (“I’m proud of you for ____.”) can have children and teens seek approval.

Reminded him that i (and my wife) never wanted him to become another victim.

We focused (and continue to focus) on traits, behaviors, and values. We are always impressed with his growth with personal responsibility.

We could probably use a 0ne-minute conversation with ourselves as well.

“Hey jeff, i am proud of who you’ve become and where you are in life.”

Or…

“Hey jeff, you have taken some incredible risks in the past decade and we can see your passion, persistence, and determination paying off with a freedom to do what you want when you want. Your ability to help others think differently is putting a positive dent in our Universe.”

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