Dear Son, Life’s Wakeup Calls Are Huge Gifts And Mine Was Discovering Parenting Is Not An Entitlement

Rhode Island, June 16, 2011

Dear Son, every day is Father’s Day. Your Mother and I suffered through an invisible disability, infertility. Parenting is not an entitlement for some couples.

Spending our life savings, struggling for 8 years with pathetic odds, with no guarantee – heart wrenching. Doing our bear hug every day after school – priceless.

I hope every parent can comprehend the wealth children bring.

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A Balanced Birthday?

HQ: Life's Day To Day Administration
HQ: Life's Day To Day Administration

Thursday was our Son’s 10th birthday.

Normally, Cheryl organizes all the presents.

Being on vacation this week with the new puppy, I had time to put some thought into his gift bag, and he received a balanced set of presents.

  • Mind: Book
  • Body: Vitamins
  • Spirit: Letters To God (dvd)
  • Money: Cash
  • HQ: Phone

Call it crazy, or brilliant, or weird, it doesn’t matter.

You know what matters?

No seriously, do you know what matters?

Because in the end, it comes down to what we do before we die.

(Body Blog)

Bear Hug

Are you thankful for the seemingly overwhelming obstacles that appear in front of you?  Many times, I’ve finally come to learn, the solutions are simple.

What began as anger turned into an amazing blessing.

Bear hugs began about seven years ago when I was struggling to adapt to a new rule our son’s child care provider put in place.

My wife takes our son to day care, I pick him up. Upon arrival, the first thing I’d do is scoop him up and give him a hug. In many cases, I had not seen him (awake) since the day before.

The new policy change had you remain in your vehicle as your child was placed in their car seat. You never got out of the car. Some parents liked this.

I did not. In fact, it made me really pissed off angry. Fuming mad.

Solutions are often simple and many times, come from unlikely sources. A friend, gay and never ever ging to be a parent, gave me the best parenting solution.

He said, “After you pick up your son, why don’t you drive around the corner, park, get out, and do your bear hug?”

Duh!  It was the perfect solution. Perfect.

There have been a few days where we are several miles from his school when one of us realizes we didn’t do our bear hug.  Do we wait until we get home? Nope.

What overwhelming challenge have you had that turned into one of your biggest mid life blessings?