Everyone’s A Critic

Walt Said His Brother, The Mailman, Was The Smart Disney
Walt Said His Brother, The Mailman, Was The Smart Disney

It’s Saturday, which means only one thing, Guest Blogger Lorie Sheffer is here to make us think:

The recent publicity surrounding the upcoming wedding of Prince William reminds me of the great lesson I learned about life from his mother, the late Princess Diana and Sarah, Duchess of York. Be happy and true to yourself, because there will always be people around whose main goal is to tear you down. Diana and Sarah, or Fergie as we all came to know her, were victims of “damned if you do, damned if you don’t.” Diana seemed to have a love/hate relationship with the press, while Sarah’s fall from grace was much more permanent.

I remember waking up at some God-awful hour to watch the much-anticipated wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer.  Theirs was a fairy tale come true, or so we were lead to believe. We then read stories of the feisty redhead who stole the heart of Charles’ younger brother, Andrew. I watched as Diana and Sarah became partners in crime, so to speak, and in doing so breathed a new life into what had become a tired monarchy. Then the tabloids turned on them. Diana was called out for being too thin, suspected of having an eating disorder. She was criticized for focusing too much on high fashion. She was accused of being too smothering with her sons. Sarah, on the other hand, was named The Duchess of Pork because of her more curvaceous figure. She was called frumpy, and fingers wagged at her supposed lack of maternal instincts. Diana was too shy and aloof, while Sarah was too gregarious. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t. Of course we all know how it turned out for the two of them. Hard to imagine, but had she lived, Diana would have been 49 years old this past July. Sarah is now 51.

I watched as William and Kate, the next generation of royals, stood before the cameras to formally announce their engagement. I hope these two lovely young people have learned from the past and that they are given some peace, respect and privacy. Most of all, I hope that they somehow understand that since they cannot possibly, nor should they feel the need to, please everyone else, the very most they can hope for is to please themselves and one another.

“I, on the other hand, completely believed everything they wrote. I believed I was the worthless person they were talking about.” – Sarah Ferguson

“Being a princess isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.” – Diana, Princess of Wales

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What Are Life’s 5 Big Choices?

Life Would Be Easier If We Were A Dog At The Beach
Life Would Be Easier If We Were A Dog At The Beach

Buzzwords are a dime a dozen: wellness, balance, holistic, integrity, focus, discipline, harmony, peace.

Life’s big choices? There are only five. You know this right? My guess is that most people aren’t passionate enough about self-actualization to begin and finish the search.

Neither good nor bad. It is what it is. As long as we are fulfilled with our big choices in life. Right?

The five are Mind, Body, Spirit, Money and HQ. (repetition is the mother of all learning)

Am I missing one that you think is important, and doesn’t fall into the big five?

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But Here’s Why

Intuition Was Whispering, "Delete"
Intuition Was Whispering, "Delete"

So how was getting out of bed today? Any better than two days ago?

So, sure, I deleted that email, but here’s why. Every month, that Doctor sends a few emails, and they all sound the same, “Buy my stuff”. But when do these “salespeople” show us their authenticity? When do they show us they’re real, genuine – a person you would trust like a friend?

Um, let’s see, like never.

Sure, it would be easier to unsubscribe from his emails, but hey, when you’re really busy, it’s so much quicker to hit delete.

For an unknown reason on his latest email though, I actually read a good portion and it sounded good. But.

But the realization came that he has never painted an image of who he is in real life.

There has been no real life, in real time.

Is it wrong to want this? To expect it? To consider it a non-negotiable?

Does anyone else crave authenticity, or it just me?

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Midlife Name Calling

Not What You'd Expect
Not What You'd Expect

Bam!

Out of no where.

Talk about being hit with a blind spot!

Last week, the new guy said, “You’re the most boundary-less thinker I’ve ever met”.

Think about it, you might have some really exciting, positive blind spots.

Listen carefully when you engage with others. When they call you names, it will probably fly right over your head, or, it just might make your day.

Maybe it’s the tag line at the Next Blog that helped form the blind spot.