Posts Tagged ‘Mid Life’

Feed Your Midlife Temptation

Friday, July 30th, 2010
Some Things Make Perfect Sense

Some Things Make Perfect Sense

We can all agree that there are some things that just make sense – there is no denying their truth and predictability.

We all have:

  1. A brain (mental)
  2. A body (physical)
  3. A spirit (emotional)
  4. A contribution (job)
  5. A life (administration)

Reading five blogs each day is challenging. I get that.

Living a great life is challenging too.

But neither one is impossible.

Feed your midlife temptation to transform to a more balanced life.

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A Grateful Mess?

Sunday, July 4th, 2010

Treasures Await

Treasures Await

Lorie Sheffer, take it away:

Last winter my dear friend died suddenly, leaving us with an enormous mountain of legal work and two residences filled with stuff. Grief had knocked the wind out of us, and the magnitude of the cleanup was almost incomprehensible. As soon as people realized that she had been a hoarder, I began to hear the comments of how sorry everyone was that we were left with such a “mess”. Yet we almost immediately realized that what looked like a mess to others was to be a gift to us. We didn’t know exactly how that gift would be uncovered, but uncover it we did. We are still uncovering it, layer by layer.

It is fascinating to sift through the years of a family’s life. Beautiful dresses from the 1930s. Ladies’ hats, not worn since the 1940s and 1950s, meticulously packed in boxes. Toddlers’ lovely woolen coats with little hand crocheted lace trimmed collars; hand knit sweaters and caps that belonged to her, the only child, the cherished daughter. Photographs of my husband’s family, smiling up from holiday dinners, sitting near beautifully decorated Christmas trees. Summers at Hershey Park when my husband was just a small boy, standing with her, his cousin, protectively holding his hand. Most heartbreaking were the photographs of my son and the thank-you notes and post cards from both of my children, lying on the tops of the heaps, where she could see them always. These were clearly the most cherished of all her possessions.

I slowly developed this need to rescue things from being sold or donated. It wasn’t the monetary value that interested me. I wanted to clean and restore these things and cherish them out of respect for the lives of the small family out of whose home they came. I saw a photograph of my friend as a teenager, lying on her bed reading a book; I am now preparing to remove, clean and restore the beautiful art deco furniture from that bedroom. The racks of vintage clothing that I discovered in the attic now have a place of honor in a lovely vintage clothing store. It comforts me to know that someone will come into that store and walk out with what they consider to be a treasure. I have stripped and sanded and refinished small tables, and I have cleaned and restored old clocks. I found lovely framed botanical prints that now grace the walls of my dining room, the same room where we had our last party with her. She sat with us and had dinner and laughed and knew that we were so very honored to have her with us for that evening. We had our annual special Christmas party just for her.

Now my father is seriously ill and is beginning what will be a long recovery. Every day I come home from the hospital exhausted, in desperate need of diversion. I turn to another gift she left to me, my beautiful chest filled with antique linens. I take them out one by one and soak them, beginning a process that can take as long as a week. A large tub of water sits on my porch, and every night I pour it onto my thirsty flowers and refill it, until the water runs clear. This has to be repeated for days. Then I begin the soak in oxygen bleach, which takes several more days. Finally, a few days in detergent, and then a final few days in clean water. Each day I change the water and each day more stain is lifted and beautiful fabric is revealed. It is cleaned and renewed. It is restored. It is cleansing and it is healing. I look toward the summer sky as the stars begin to appear, and I know she is there. I know that she is somehow helping me through this. I smile and I am grateful for the mess she has left for me.

1 Key To Midlife Happiness

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Two Colors Makes All The Difference

Two Colors Makes All The Difference

The key to midlife happiness is to lower your expectations.

Yeah, that ought to do it.

Heard this recently and had to wonder, who is saying this?

Lower your expectations?

Are you kidding me?

The Older You Get

Saturday, May 8th, 2010
May 5th & May 6th, 2010

May 5th & May 6th, 2010

“The older you get the faster it goes.”

Wednesday, while in Philadelphia to give a keynote speech, there was a rare moment with the television on in my hotel room.  A local couple were celebrating their 70th wedding anniversary. Four children, eight grandchildren and three great grandchildren.

Have you heard older people say the older you get, the faster time goes?

Does this notion have any truth for you?

I guess the big question is, “Do you ignore or embrace this truth?”

Mid Life Pink Floyd

Friday, May 7th, 2010
A Woofer The Size Of The Trunk

A Woofer The Size Of The Trunk

What if we could look forward to death? Since we look forward to all the other major life events – birth, adolescence, marriage, retirement – why not death?

I mean seriously, it’s not like it’s not going to happen.

Pink Floyd is one of those bands that crosses generations in it’s popularity, and there is a line from one of their songs, “Is there anybody out there.”

Reflecting back on yesterday’s post, that question, and then that song, just popped my mind.

Is there anybody out there who wants to share insights on dying well?

If we do some advance work, the event itself won’t be an overwhelming event that devastates us.

Any takers?

How Much Is Enough?

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

What Does Balance Mean To You?

What Does Balance Mean To You?

How much is enough?

Was speaking with my Banker friend yesterday.

As he was listening to the vision of Mid Life Celebration, you could see and feel his interest in it’s long-term dream.

The Mid Life Celebration dream is so far out there, it seems impossible.

And yet, at it’s very core, it’s so ridiculously simple and painfully obvious.

It’s the solution to life.

The Banker reminded me that “wealth” in one area doesn’t mean overall wealth, doesn’t mean balanced wealth.

And without balanced wealth, what do you think you get out of life?

Major Mid Life April Fool?

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

MIND, BODY, SPIRIT, MONEY

MIND, BODY, SPIRIT, MONEY

Mid Life Celebration has now been writing five daily blogs for one year.

This is not an April Fool’s joke (although the timing is perfect).

I remember how it all started.  March 2009.  Our 2nd-grade son was questioning why he had to read aloud 20 minutes every day.

“If you want to be a good reader, you need to read a lot”, I said.

Then I continued, “You know I’m training for the World Championships, right?  If I want to be a good runner, I need to run a lot.”

Then, the flash of light!

“If you want to be a good writer, you should write a lot.”

What started as a simple 100-day challenge to write daily, in the five blogs, has turned into a heretical marketing and brand value proposition.

Mid Life Pace

Friday, March 12th, 2010
Clearly Ahead Or Clearly Behind?

Clearly Ahead Or Clearly Behind?

Happy Friday everyone and thank you for visiting Mid Life Celebration. Ever work really hard for a really long time and wonder how you’ll keep your pace going?

What many great leaders do is celebrate the journey, not just reaching the final goal. They learn the power of celebrating milestones.

In our personal and professional lives, we face this same challenge. How to keep a fast and steady pace to accomplish all that’s expected of us.

The secret?  Celebrate milestones. Are you familiar with this concept?

Milestones are what you make them. There is no science to it, other than to simply find things to celebrate and feel good about, because the goal is to keep your midlife pace going.

The alternative is to lose interest and quit.

Tomorrow, I’ll share a few Mid Life Celebration milestones and invite you to share some of your own.

Lorie Sheffer Guest Blogger

Sunday, March 7th, 2010
Heavenly Dreams

Heavenly Dreams

Lorie Sheffer provides us with much “food for thought” today as we journey through our Mid Life Celebration.  Ladies and gentlemen, Lorie Sheffer:

What time frame do we put on reaching our dreams? How high do we aim? It’s fine if your dream is more of a whim, and it’s fine if you don’t have complete success. Sometimes getting there is half the fun. But sometimes we hit highs that we never imagined. For the following two ladies, life didn’t begin at 40; life began after 50.

Julia Child was not one to be rushed. She stood 6 feet 2 inches tall, came from a privileged background, was college educated and had jobs as an editor, as well as working for the Office of Strategic Forces during WWII. She married at age 34, which was unheard of in the 1940s, when most young women married right out of high school. Julia loved food, and she wanted something fun to do while living in Paris with her husband, so she took classes at Le Cordon Bleu. She wanted to teach American housewives how to cook the amazing foods she had mastered, and decided to translate recipes from French into English. It took her and her collaborators a decade to write Mastering the Art of French Cooking, and they were dismayed when their first manuscript was rejected. The legendary cookbook was finally published when Child was 49 years old. Julia’s television show, The French Chef, aired its first episode in 1963, when Julia was 51 years old.

Paula Hiers was a 4 year old growing up in Albany Georgia when Julia’s show aired. While Julia was teaching American cooks to “be fearless” in preparing dishes such as Boeuf a la Bourguignonne, Paula was learning how to make her Grandma Paul’s fried chicken. Paula grew up in much more humble surroundings. She married at a young age, lost both of her parents by the time she was 19, and raised her younger brother as well as her own two sons. Her husband, Jimmy Deen, drank heavily and Paula cracked under the stress. She started having severe panic attacks, which soon developed into agoraphobia. She would, at times, be unable to leave her home without having an incapacitating attack of severe anxiety.

Paula would find solace in cooking those wonderful comfort foods from her childhood. She later found the strength to take a job as a teller at a bank near her home, and save enough money to leave her abusive husband. To supplement her income, she made bag lunches for her young sons to sell to area business people. Out of that was born her catering business, The Bag Lady. From there, Paula opened her first restaurant, The Lady, in a tiny rented space at a local Best Western Hotel. Paula put in so much time at The Lady that some nights she slept in a booth for a few hours before starting a new day. She was not making much money, and she longed for a day when she could open a bigger restaurant for herself and her sons. After receiving a loan from her aunt, Paula opened The Lady and Sons in downtown Savannah Georgia. A food critic, who was passing through town, stopped on the suggestion of an innkeeper, and the rest is history.

Gordon Elliott got wind of Paula and featured her on Door Knock Dinners and Ready Set Cook.  Paula’s warm presence and down home personality did the rest. Paula’s Home Cooking made its Food Network debut in 2002, when Paula was 55 years old. A star was born. Paula has since written numerous best selling cookbooks, she has a total of three shows on Food Network and sells her own line of cookware. In 2004, she married her best friend, Michael Groover. Unlike Julia, Paula never set foot in a cooking school.

Don’t count yourself out of the game just because of age. Think what these ladies, and the rest of us, would have missed had Julia and Paula thought they were too old to dream.

Midlife Sum

Friday, March 5th, 2010
One Card Does Not Make A Stack

One Card Does Not Make A Stack

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”   — Robert Collier

Did you hear that?

Day in and day out.

Committed. Relentless. Focused. Confident.

Surprising Jimmy Stewart Midlife Poem

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

Thank you for visiting Mid Life Celebration. I know most of you are insanely busy. How? Because I’m one of you. It’s also easy to predict that most of you will not have time to click on this video, especially if you’re reading from a handheld device.

So this is for the others. The few. The ones who know full well that life is hard and that carving out time has to be some one’s responsibility.

Did you watch the sunset last night? Or the sunrise this morning?

Time marches on. This is a beautiful story. Just like last night’s sunset. But you really have no idea do you?

Mid Life Stuff

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010
Think About Making It Simple

Think About Making It Simple

How much is enough?  A famous and sultry actress from yesteryear, Mae West once said, “Too much of a good thing is wonderful”.

We can assume she wasn’t talking about stuff. Anyway, the question still remains. And some collect stuff that defies logic, common sense, basic hygiene, and fundamental organizational skills for practical living.

Excessive collecting can complicate relationships and alienate people from the ones they love, just for starters.

Most of us certainly don’t have the answers, nor do we have any appetite for supporting this behavior. If we did, would that make us co-dependent? Like being co-dependent with an alcoholic in denial?

Click here to read “Why do we collect so much stuff?”

Each day, do you attempt to simplify?  De-clutter?  Detoxify? Purge? Reevaluate?

What if you did?

Grieving The Loss of a Pet

Monday, February 15th, 2010
Unconditional Love (Both Ways)

Unconditional Love (Both Ways)

By mid life, most of us (not all, but most) have had family pets and have had to deal with the loss of a beloved pet.

This can be gut wrenching, and deeply emotional.

Have you been there?

Sometimes we see it coming.  Sometimes it happens in an instant. Either way, it is never easy.

Finding a good way to express our grief at the loss of a beloved Family pet will bring us a mid life peace we so desperately need.

Click here, if you find yourself in need, to read a comforting article on this topic.

I just read it and fold greater peace.

This is exactly what me and my Family needs right now.

Yesterday, we laid Carter, our beloved Canine Son (yellow Lab of 11 years)), to rest.

Tell Show Involve

Saturday, February 13th, 2010
Brothers

Brothers

Tell me.

Show me.

Involve me.

Common sense is hardly common practice.

If anyone has anything to help my Family find peace and comfort as we say good bye to our beloved Canine Son, Carter, please know you may leave comments here or email them to jeff.noel@me.com , if you’d like to remain private.

Men of a Certain Age

Monday, February 8th, 2010
Super Hero?

Super Hero?

Men of a certain age is the target audience for Mid Life Celebration. Baby Boomer men, and Gen X men over 40 years old.

All are welcome, of course.  Yesterday’s Mid Life Celebration Guest Blogger, Lorie Sheffer, recommended “Men of a Certain Age” on TNT, tonight (Monday’s) at 10PM.

Click here to view Men of a Certain Age website. Viewing it will give you a quick idea whether or not you want to check it out.  I’ll have to record it because 9:30PM is “lights out”.

Took a quick look yesterday.  Really liked what I saw.

If you’ve seen it, and feel like it, share a quick comment about the show. Happy Monday.