The three insidious dream killers in midlife There are no do-overs, only beginning again (recommit) The three insidious dream killers in midlife. I should have I would have I could have Also known as shoulda, woulda, coulda. This is a symptom, not an incurable disease. Do something about it, otherwise, it will feel like a disease. Next Blog By jeff noel Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five interconnected sites. View all of jeff noel's posts.