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He said people are mostly lazy. Is that true?

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He said people are mostly lazy. What the? Can that be true?

He’s a Pastor.

He’s seen it all.

I asked why he thought people are lazy.

Something about it’s just easier to feel hopeless, which fuels laziness.

Man this is a tough topic. Any help out there?

To tackle today in a balanced way, I love jumping from mind (this blog) to body (this blog).

 

By jeff noel

Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five different sites.

7 replies on “He said people are mostly lazy. Is that true?”

With working more and not being home as much to pick up behind the crew, I’m seeing this. I told the girls they might as well throw the garbage on the floor and make it easier for the ants if they won’t take care if their dishes. My talking and ranting makes no impact. But today will be magical. I’ve decided that for myself. 🙂

Jeff,

I see where the pastor is coming from. It is a harsh word to take, but I see where he is coming from. I may not call it laziness to the person’s face, but I might use a more psychological term of “learned helplessness.”

What is the basis for learned helplessness? I believe it is one of two things, hammering at people from the outside, starting at a very young age. The first one is meant to be demeaning – it hurts. The second one is meant to be good – it still hurts.

The first scenario is the person who, no matter what he or she does, is told he or she is a failure…a good-for-nothing. Nothing is encouraging to that person…they can do nothing right in the eyes of his or her parent/role model. So what do they grow up thinking? I can hear the thought process now: “If I know I am not going to do a good job at it, why should I even try? I am going to fail anyway. So I will put it off until someone else does it or I have to try and mess it up. If I wait until the last minute, the ‘I told you so’ comments won’t be as many.”

The second has become the more deceptively sinister. It is the child whose parents/role models want to give their child a better life than they had, so they overcompensate. The child isn’t allowed to experience failure. If they are remotely close to failing, the parent/role model swoops in and takes care of the situation. There is never a logical recourse for the child. Everything will always be handled or done by someone else, if failure is the end result otherwise. It seems logical to the child because that is what the child has been taught, but it doesn’t mesh with personal responsibility and adult behavior down the road. The end result – the person develops the attitude of, “Why should I even do it? Someone else will do it. In the end, someone else will make sure it gets done, and we’ll be alright. We’re always alright in the end.”

Those are just my observations.

Bob

Patty,

Now don’t get me wrong – I am not saying that there are genuinely lazy people out there. That could also be a part of who they are (in a Type-A mindset, a Type-B person can very easily be viewed that way). I am just saying from years of teaching high school kids and now experiencing my own kids with the first one now a teenager, I am trying to make sure I don’t fall into the latter scenario. I want so bad to come behind and take care of everything, but that doesn’t help. And badgering them doesn’t help. So I have to find that balance of allowing them success or failure with encouragement behind it.

I know growing up, failure to me brought around more resolve to try harder the next time. I am not seeing that much anymore.

Bob

Great to hear Patty. Everything in life is a choice – even not deciding is a choice.

Stay focused and have fun on today’s journey – which of course, is also a choice. 🙂

Bob, forge the path you believe in – the one based on solid values. Common sense will never go out of style and will always be relevant. The tactics and tools may change, but the end goal (healthy, well-adjusted children) never does.

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