Tag: Lorie Sheffer

There are times when it is almost impossible not to see the irony in a situation.

I saw their photograph on the front page of my local newspaper. In the photo, an extremely long line, overwhelming male, standing in wait to enter a large gun show at a nearby venue. Because of recent national headlines, many of these men were interviewed as they stood in wait for the doors to open. Every one who was interviewed said they bought guns for self defense; they bought them for protection. I looked closely at this photo, and saw that many of them were more than slightly overweight, and many were smoking.

I am not writing this to voice my opinion on The Second Amendment or of the laws surrounding this issue. What I am scratching my head over is the fact that “homicide” is #15 on the list of causes of death in the United States. The number one cause is “heart disease”, followed by “cancer”, “stroke”, “lung disease”, “accident” and “diabetes”.

Certainly these men were all going to stop on the way home for a nicotine patch to aid in the cessation of their cigarette habit, go home for a meal of grilled fish with a side of leafy greens and a fresh fruit plate for dessert, and hit the sack early so they could get up early the next morning and go wait in line to sign up for their new gym membership. Or go for a long walk. Or ski or swim or play a game of pick up basketball with other men they met in line at the gun show.  Isn’t that what everyone does who is concerned about self-protection?

 

I’ve always needed some sort of creative outlet, so holidays are my time to go for it.  Last year, I added decorated sugar cookie snowflakes to my repertoire of baked holiday treats. This year I upped the creativity factor by investing in a pastry bag and a self-education course on decorating via some very helpful Internet sites.  I have to admit that exhausting as it was, I totally enjoyed the two full day process and was pretty happy with the results. So happy, in fact, that I posted the above photo on my facebook page.

My brother’s comment? “Where are the chocolate chips?” Chocolate chip cookies are his favorite. Apparently, according to the comments on HIS comment, they are the favorite of many.

Lesson learned? Sometimes it’s the simple things. Sometimes we think that more effort we put into something, the more others will appreciate what we’ve done for them. We also need to think, are we doing what we’re doing for THEM or are we doing what we’re doing for OURSELVES? I will admit that although I baked these embellished cookies for everyone to enjoy, I mostly did it for me. I wanted the creative outlet and I wanted to learn a new skill. I think it’s fantastic to do something just for me sometimes.

Last night I whipped up a batch of chocolate chip cookies. The entire process took me about an hour and a half. They are now waiting in a container on my table, ready for me to drop off at my brother’s apartment later this afternoon.

Maybe the best way to honor the memory of those who can’t be with us this holiday season is to appreciate those who can be with us.

 

Tomorrow morning when you wake up, try not to use your dominant hand for the first hour. Just allow it to hang by your side. Make your morning coffee; brush your teeth and shower. Ladies, apply your makeup and blow dry and style your hair using your non-dominant hand only. Men, you may want to use an electric shaver for this. Now get dressed. Button your shirt and tie your shoes. Are you feeling frustrated even though you know at any time you still have the ability to use both hands? Imagine not having that option. Now, imagine doing this all day, every day, for the rest of your life.

This is just a hint of what it feels like for someone who has survived a stroke, traumatic brain injury, severe nerve damage or amputation. Want to kick it up a notch? Try doing this same exercise while standing on one foot. Now, imagine if someone was yelling at you to hurry up or was being impatient with you for not being fast enough.

I’ve lived for almost 16 years with this reality, and still, I find that I will sometimes forget what it must feel like. That’s when I spend an hour with my right arm hanging by my side.

It seems each family has at least one holiday tradition that others may find unusual.

The best story I heard was the one about a traditional Christmas Eve ham. My friend told me that every year, her grandmother would bake this special ham. When grandma got older the dinner preparations were taken over by Mom. When Mom got to be up in years, the daughters took over the honors. Always, ALWAYS, that ham was prepared by first cutting off each end by about an inch. One year, one of the daughters forgot this crucial step and placed the ham into the roasting pan, ends uncut. A hush fell over the kitchen. Mom, hoping to avert what was sure to be the ruination of the centerpiece of the Christmas Eve buffet, gently reminded her daughters that they must never forget to cut of the ends of the ham first. “Why?” one of the girls asked. Mom just stood there, not really knowing the answer. “It just tastes better if you cut off the ends before you bake it. Grandma always did that, and she always made the best ham.” This made no sense to the girls, but since it had been done that way since before they were born, this tradition of holiday ham preparation surely must have some logical explanation. Grandma was now well into her nineties, but still mentally sharp and sitting in the next room enjoying the appetizers. They decided to go ask her.

“Grandma, we have a question for you. Why did you always cut the ends from the ham before baking it? Does it stay more flavorful? Is it better for the glaze to get in there?”

She looked at them as if they had hit the eggnog a bit too hard.

“I cut the ends off so the ham would fit into my roaster.” Then she shook her head and started to laugh.

Holiday tradition. Sometimes we just continue them without ever asking “Why?”