Guest blogger Lorie Sheffer: Forgiveness step 4

Photo: Lorie Sheffer
Photo: Lorie Sheffer


The 4th step to forgiveness is knowing that…….

……we do not need to be loyal to our pain. There is no need for us to carry it around with us. It is such a heavy burden.

We should not allow our pain or hurt to define who we are. There is so much more to us than “victim”.

What a relief to give ourselves permission to live in peace and contentment, even amidst angry, miserable people.

“But how can I possibly allow myself to enjoy life when there is so much suffering around me?”  Because we honor the suffering in the world by seeing the joy in life.  There is so much pain and suffering in the world that if that was ALL there was to life, then life itself would be hopeless.

As the French writer Andre Gide said, “Know that joy is rarer, more difficult and more beautiful than sadness. Once you make this all-important discovery, you must embrace joy as a moral obligation.”

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By jeff noel

Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five interconnected sites.