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Take a bead every weekend for 18 years

they grow up fast
2/3 of the way to his 18th birthday
time flies
every Saturday, a reminder to “Take a bead”

Take a bead every weekend for 18 years. Yes. Dear Son, been taking one bead from this jar every weekend for 12 years now. Two thirds of our life under the same roof is over.

This is why balance is so important. Kids grow up fast. What’s your biggest regret looking back on how your children are no longer living with you?

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By jeff noel

Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five interconnected sites.

11 replies on “Take a bead every weekend for 18 years”

Happily finding out that when a child is in college they are still very much a part of the family. Almost even more so. As the importance of parents and their advice and guidance becomes apparent when not under the same roof. Not that the child isn’t a functioning adult, but they seek that parental wisdom when needed. Drawing the relationship closer.

Jeff, as I read your question and then re-read your question my thoughts actually turned to my children as the adults they are today. I don’t spend any time thinking about regrets because I am feeling so grateful daily for the beautiful women they have become. The relationship is so much more than the first 18 years and each year has a special place in our lives. I doubt you will have any regrets either, seriously. But I do believe you are going to be so proud and excited for his future that you won’t look back either.

Since you have a son, I focused my answer on my son. Funny, but just yesterday on the way home from getting groceries, I had this horrible wave of missing him, and I started to cry (hormones). Zero regrets with him. I think that from Day One, my mantra was “This is HIS life, not YOURS, so let him decide what he likes, how he wants to live and what he thinks and feels……” Kids are not do-overs for their parents’ lives. I see that way too often. Half the fun is seeing who they’ll become. He’s become MUCH more than I could have dreamed.

Donna, I hope you will deeply reflect on what you wrote. If you can fully embrace living a life without regrets, you have truly lived well. Congratulations. And thank you for leading the way for your daughters to pass it on to your grandchildren. Well done, good and faithful servant.

Patty, great words of wisdom. So obvious that we could become blind to the obvious.

And the other truth, we are not do overs either.

How cool, scary, exciting is that?!

Jeff, thought provoking. Just said I don’t spend much time thinking about regrets. Didn’t say I don’t have any 🙂

What good would focusing on my regrets do me? It only robs me of my joy right now.

I always look forward to your thoughts they do make me think.

Whew, in a weird way, it’s sorta good to hear you actually have regrets. Otherwise, we’d have to call you superwoman.

What can come from regrets is not only an awareness, but a proactive plan of attack to rid them (or minimize greatly) from our future.

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