Guest blogger Lorie Sheffer: Forgiveness Step seven – Learn

John Hopkins Medical Center (photo: Lorie Sheffer)
John Hopkins Medical Center (photo: Lorie Sheffer)


Learn the inner and outer forms of forgiveness.

Sometimes we turn anger inward, which harms us. Other times we turn our anger outward, which harms those around us.

To help overcome inward anger, we may find that prayer or meditation helps to calm us.

Outwardly, we might try to stop talking in a negative way about others or behaving with aggression and negativity.

Research has conclusively shown that angry, aggressive people have greater thickening of neck arteries, which may lead to stroke. They also have higher risk of heart disease than those who are less stressed.

How many times do we need to read or hear about aggression leading to violence? Road rages gone horribly awry, people being shot in the heat of an angry argument, or domestic violence are all ways that outward anger is expressed.

Try to pay attention to how you feel inside and how you are behaving toward others. Be mindful of your inward and outward expressions of anger and resentment. The goal is to refuse to allow negative emotions to rule your life.

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By jeff noel

Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five interconnected sites.