Give it up, by guest blogger Lorie Sheffer

Lorie Sheffer
Give it up (photo: Lorie Sheffer, York, PA)

Sometimes we have to be willing to step back and allow someone else to shoulder the burden. In order to do so, we must accept that they may not do things exactly the same way we would do them. This doesn’t make it wrong, it just means things may be done differently. If we want to be relieved of some of the stress and worry in our lives, we have got to learn how to turn over our troubles to someone else.

A friend of mine wonders why her adult daughter is so reluctant to help her. When her daughter does offer to help, the criticism of how she is doing things always stops her in her tracks. Yet my friend wants things done “the right way”, and cannot seem to give up control. This past week I had a difficult situation to deal with. Already trying to manage more stress then I can handle, I asked my husband to please take this one for me, which he agreed to do. People who are aware of the situation started to question me as to whether I felt he was doing what I wanted, and how I wanted it to be done. This amazed me; when you ask someone to handle a situation for you that you clearly don’t want to be dealing with, you need to step back and allow him or her to do it their way. If you micromanage every move someone makes when they are doing a favor that you asked of them, don’t be surprised if the next time you ask, the answer is “no”.

There are times when all of us need to ask someone else to step in and help us carry the load. Knowing when you need help is not a sign of a weak person; it is a sign of strength; of knowing your limits and having enough self-confidence to admit when you need assistance.

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We need simple. We need key. We need repetition.

The answer to why do recurring themes help us succeed is painfully obvious. We are constantly overloaded with “important” messages. Without simple, key, repeatable themes, we fail. I (respectfully) dare anyone to show evidence this isn’t so.

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Same thing, different day.

Over and over and over…

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Over And Over: Are Recurring Themes Key?

Same highways. Different day. Go.

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  • Never get bored with the basics
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How Do You Do It?

Some things are challenging to explain, like this photo. (Disney's Best Friends Pet Care)

Ever have one of those moments when someone asks, “How do you do it?” and you don’t really have a logical answer?

Last week, a few days before New Year’s, enjoying dinner, our friend asked how the blogging was going. Cheryl chimed in, “Jeff hit his 5,000th post on 11.11.11”.

Stacey then asked, “So you reuse some of your older posts?”

Pausing, and thinking for a moment, “No. There are recurring themes, over and over, but not the same stories.”

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